I don't dream of tackling every reason why I am a feminist. I am a feminist for far too many reasons. But this particular tweet resonated to the deep seated disgust I feel for aurat crusaders in particular.
I am paraphrasing but:
"Kenapa nak marah lelaki tengok kalau pakai seluar ketat dan tank top? Pakai baju ketat apa niatnya?"There're so many ignorance in one statement, I can barely deal. If you click on the tweet and you dare read the comments below it, you would see how patriarchal our society is. Someone had the audacity to say
"Patut kau video tape je orang yang pakai macam ni. Baru diorang tau".
If that does not make you lose all faith in men, I don't know what will.
Firstly, you should extend common decency to women on the basis of her being a human. It is common decency to know that it's rude to point and stare at people. Mak bapak tak ajar ke? How that person dress and how they look on the outside is irrelevant. You dehumanize a woman when you tell her she has no right to get angry when she is treated because of the way she dresses.
How better are you than they guy I met at a truck stop in Chicago who called me a terrorist because of my Hijab? Both of you judge women by what she chose to wear so really you're no better. You are both scums of the earth and I pray that you would not reproduce.
You cling to the ability to disrespect women. Why? Do you believe it's your right to be an asshole? What kind of person fight so hard to disrespect other people? I would assume that you are a bad person if you are so passionate about hurting someone. You deny someone's lived experiences, and at the same time, vilify them because they dare to feel uncomfortable for being stared at. Again, what kind of a person are you?
Secondly, you argue about the intentions of women who dress that way. You argue that their intentions are clear: they want men's attention. So they had no rights to get mad when they are stared at. How high is the horse you're sitting at if you think that women only do things for you? What's the point of her getting mad at the impolite staring if that was the response she wanted? Who are you to tell someone who felt like she was violated by men who ogled at her that she was wrong? Are you God to know what's going on inside her? If you're not God why are you taking God's works, judging and punishing?
The analogy is simple: you uses the iPhone 6 and of course, you would use it in public. If the phone is thieved, would it be okay for people to assume that you wanted for your phone to get taken from you? Instead of blaming the thief, they are blaming you for using your phone in broad daylight. How would you like that?
Never mind the fact that a woman's journey of submission to her Creator is pure and scared. When I don the Hijab, I get reminded of modesty; I feel closer to my Creator because I am following His orders. I submit to Him and to Him only. I can't imagine covering up out of intimidation from the men around me who gets horny by the sight of my bare arms. Who would stick their necks out to defend their rights to ogle at me if I dare to wear any formfitting outfit. Who would do more to name and shame women who show their hair than to condemn the absolute monstrosity of domestic violence and rape culture.
Men who go on these crusades taint my fellow sisters' journey to submission. They reduce the absolute sanctity of Islam's call to cover up. They make it about themselves and their utter lack of self control.
I pray that Allah will guide all these kinds of men. Until then, I will rid myself from these misogynists and hopefully do what I can to educate my future son and brothers so that at least, in my family line I can stop this misogynistic cycle.
Call me a feminazi if you'd like; because I have already formed my opinion about you and all the men who after reading my lengthy explanation, would still fight for their rights to be assholes.
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