Happiness is a violent roar

Often, when asked what people want out of life, they'd say that they'd want to be happy.
We're so used to the idea that being happy is vital.

And it is vital to a certain extent. But being happy is not the default state of us, humans. We despise being sad. So much so that when we're sad, we rush and do whatever we think is possible to be happy again.

Happiness is a reward. It's nice being happy.

But being happy all the time would mean being unprepared for the harsh reality of the world.
The idea of happiness to me, is not synchronized at all with the fact that we are so vulnerable. The world, by default is a mean place. The only thing that you're in control of is yourself and your own actions. How everyone else act around you is entirely up the them. And for the most part, that's why there're so many sad beings in this world.

The thing that we should strive for in this world is not happiness per se, it's knowing how to go on even when you're sad. We should not think that happiness should be our constant state of existence.
And I think when you're not scared of being sad, that's when you'll be whole.

My dream is to achieve wholeness.
I realise that no matter how you guard yourself, there's no way around it. You can't run from pain and anguish. But you can find ways not to fall flat on your face when you're faced with these tribulations.

And I think that's far more important that being happy.